If your idea of the perfect evening includes a warm drink, your comfiest jumper, and a soft glow filling the room, you’re in the right place. The soft girl lifestyle is all about slowing down, indulging in small luxuries, and creating an environment that feels safe, beautiful, and entirely yours.
And nothing sets the tone quite like the right candle.
Whether you’re looking to romanticise your evenings, create a peaceful morning ritual, or find the perfect gift for a fellow soft girl, here’s our curated list of the best candles for self-care...
1) Amsterdam Collection Candle – Rituals
Scent: Dutch tulip, Japanese yuzu, peony, black pepper, sandalwood, white musk & patchouli
Price: Approx. £40.90 (400 g)
Vibe: Elegant, calming, cultural fusion
Made from rapeseed wax and housed in a porcelain jar inspired by 17th-century Delftware, this limited-edition candle brings a refined, peaceful energy to any space. The scent layers start with citrusy mandarin and yuzu, followed by floral tulip and peony tones, softly spiced with black pepper and sandalwood, then finished with warm wood and whispers of white musk and patchouli.
💡Best for: Turning your soft girl space into a cozy, artful zen moment—perfect for journaling, slow evenings, or giving your home gallery-style calm.
2. Mentally, I’m Here – Mind Ur Beezness
Scent: Lavender, Patchouli & Bergamot
Price: £29.99
Vibe: Calming, grounding, restorative
For the days when your body is present but your mind is on holiday, Mentally, I’m Here is your grounding ritual. Lavender soothes, patchouli grounds, and bergamot brightens — perfect for ending a busy day or adding a peaceful note to your self-care routine.
💡 Best for: Bath nights, slow Sunday mornings, or unwinding before bed.
3) Bibliothèque – Byredo
Scent: Peach, Plum, Leather & Vanilla
Price: £62
Vibe: Luxurious, nostalgic, bookish
If you want your home to smell like a romantic library, Bibliothèque is it. Sweet fruits, soft leather, and vanilla make this candle indulgent and sophisticated — definitely a splurge-worthy self-care treat.
💡 Best for: Soft girls who collect books like others collect shoes.
4) Anemone Perfume Candle – Grove England
Scent: Chamomile, Jasmine & Cedarwood
Price: £38
Vibe: Tranquil, floral, subtly woody
The Anemone candle by Grove England blends soothing chamomile with romantic jasmine and grounding cedarwood for a scent that feels like an exhale at the end of a long day. The chic frosted glass jar makes it just as beautiful to look at as it is to light — a perfect companion for evening wind-down rituals.
💡 Best for: Bedside tables, journaling sessions, and quiet nights with your thoughts.
5. Main Character Glow – Mind Ur Beezness
Scent: Rose Geranium & Mandarin
Price: £29.99
Vibe: Confident, uplifting, effortlessly feminine
If your soft girl era had a signature scent, this would be it. Main Character Glow blends the romantic floral of rose geranium with the bright, citrus lift of mandarin — creating an aroma that’s equal parts empowering and soothing. Light it in the morning to set the tone for a mindful, intentional day, or in the evening when you want to reconnect with yourself.
💡 Best for: Morning journaling, cosy self-care nights, or gifting to the friend who deserves to feel like the main character.
Bringing It All Together
Whether you’re lighting a soft girl candle to romanticise your morning coffee, create a slow-living evening ritual, or gift a moment of calm to someone special, the right scent transforms more than just a room — it shifts your mood, your energy, and your mindset. From the uplifting Main Character Glow and the grounding Mentally, I’m Here, to luxurious picks from Byredo, Rituals, and Grove England, these self-care candles bring warmth, beauty, and intention into every day. Start building your own collection and let your soft girl era glow in every corner of your home.
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Soft Girl Candle FAQ
1. What makes a candle “soft girl”?
A soft girl candle combines calming, feminine scents with an aesthetic design that fits a slow-living, romanticised lifestyle. Think floral notes like rose or lavender, cosy citrus blends, and beautiful jars you’ll want to reuse.
2. Which candle scent is best for self-care?
For self-care, choose candles with soothing scents like lavender, rose geranium, chamomile, or sandalwood. These notes help you relax, unwind, and create a calming atmosphere in your space.
3. Can candles really improve my mood?
Yes — scented candles can boost your mood by engaging your sense of smell, which is directly linked to memory and emotions. Lighting a candle during your soft girl rituals can help signal your brain to slow down and enjoy the moment.
4. Are these candles good gifts?
Absolutely. A beautifully packaged self-care candle is a thoughtful, versatile gift for birthdays, thank-yous, or simply to encourage someone’s soft girl era.
